Specifically, I’m demisexual — I first heard the term “demisexual” about ten years ago. Having only previously heard about the L, the G, the B, and the T, I was curious about this new term along with the others that were new to me: asexual, and pansexual. I read through the admittedly very brief…

It doesn’t matter how many I hide, they keep coming — I signed up for a Medium account to support the writers whose stuff I like to read, among other things. I know which subjects interest me. …

It’s not them, it’s me — I’ve been out as a demisexual for four months now. I’m still new to all this, but I have adapted and adjusted and will happily talk about it to most people on Twitter and Instagram. Previously I kept it to my close inner circle as I was processing it for…

You’re not doing yourselves any favours — I get these kinds of comment on almost all of my posts here. The most frustrating thing is that parents genuinely seem to think they are the first person ever to come up with this stuff. …

It was one of those American style diners but completely out of place in the middle of nowhere on the Oxfordshire border. I cringed at the name Peggy Sue’s on Route 57 and rolled my eyes for good measure. I’d expect the owner would be a man who went on…

Because people still get confused — I’ve written a few articles now on what demisexuality is, and specifically on how I experience it. As I’m still in a phase of processing it all the self-doubts rear their head every so often. I have stopped punishing myself with the “I wish I knew 25 years ago!” thoughts…

Chill out! I want a cold holiday — This year, we are going to the Greek island of Santorini. In 2021, we went to Rhodes. In 2019, we went to Malta. In 2017 we went to Crete and in 2016, to Rhodes. These are all warm places. While visiting new places make up several items on my 50…

Maybe this list will convince you? — I’ve been out something like four months now. And yet as sure as night follows day, barely a week goes by without comments like “demisexuality? That sounds just like everyone though?!” I even get that from others in the LGBTQ+ community. Except, it isn’t “just like everyone else.” I’ve written…

It’s not an invitation to change their mind, argue, pressure, or blackmail — I was going to write this article later in the year for personal reasons — basically the tenth anniversary of my divorce. After seeing a Tweet with a Reddit screen grab, I feel the need to vent now to get my own thoughts and my past out in the open. …