Say it Loud, Say it Proud: The Childfree Life is Wonderful

Let’s get off the backfoot and start celebrating it

Matt Mason

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I often feel we childfree people spend our discussions of the subject on the backfoot. If we’re not writing articles inspired by unpleasant conversations with people who feel personally affronted about our life choice (see my last piece), we’re opening our hearts to the vulnerability of why we’d make bad parents.

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But there is joy in the childfree life. It’s not a burden, it’s a valid choice. It’s not something to mourn, it’s a freedom. It’s not something we’ve missed out on, it’s life-affirming. It’s not irresponsibility, it’s actively choosing different priorities.

So here are my top joys of the childfree life, the things that make not having children worth it.

Spontaneity

“Shall we go out for a meal tonight?”
“It’s been a long day and this task has sapped all my energy, so… yeah, why not.”
“Where do you fancy?”
“We haven’t been to [insert restaurant name here] in a while.”
“Cool, I’ll phone and book a table.”

There we go — no worrying about whether the restaurant is child friendly, no phoning around for babysitters, and no days/weeks/months of planning to make sure someone is around to look after the kids.

I’m not always a spontaneous person, but there are times when I appreciate the ability to make decisions on the spur of the moment, especially when I’m exhausted.

Summer night walks / drives

At the time of publication, it is just three weeks until the Summer Solstice in the northern hemisphere. The days continue to get longer. For my partner and I, that means night drive season.

Summer evenings are wonderful here in Cornwall. We used to go out and stretch our legs at the beach, sit down for a bit, and walk around soaking up…

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Matt Mason

Freelance writer. Medium is my place to muse and vent the serious and the frivolous: asexuality, childfree living, gaming, society, satire and more.