Especially for those of us whose experiences are in the nuance — One of the earliest articles I read about demisexuality last year just before I came out was Elle Rose’s brilliant piece Why Coming Out as Demisexual Matters. I recently re-read it and it got me thinking about the importance of using microlabels. Every so often, I’ll get a comment like…

Easier for you perhaps, but not for them — “I don’t get it!” they cry from their armchairs and a position where they just don’t want to get it and have no intention of educating themselves. “I don’t get it!” …

Thanks Gareth! — I’m no graphic designer (as you could probably tell from the last logo) and my Photoshop skills are fairly basic. So when I saw Gareth Willey offering to design/redesign publication banners for free, I took him up on the offer. When I “designed” (if I can use that word) the…

A recent post on Twitter was from a woman describing a thing that her dad does — constant threat assessment. That is, of both people and of situations, looking for signs of danger and places you might make an escape should something happen. Most of the responses from men were…

Spammers gonna spam — If you’re a creative small business with an Instagram account, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. They’re as prevalent on Instagram as porn bots and crypto accounts are now on Musk’s Twitter. But if you have somehow managed to avoid this infestation of social media leaches, let me briefly…

Two events separated by a wild decade — Warning: mention of suicidal ideation September 2012 was the month I hit rock bottom. I had been separated from my now ex-wife for a year at the time. We’d recently filed for divorce, and I’d spent the best part…

A most unusual reunion — I’ve never been one for school reunions but I decided to go to this one as it sounded a bit different from the rest. It feels odd after all these years walking back in through those doors. The familiar smell of potatoes, cabbage, custard, and the slight musk of hundreds…

And asexual men challenge the narrow view of male sexuality — Men are constantly supposed to be up for it, ready to go at the slightest sign. All it takes to spring into action is a look, some lingerie, or a hint that the other person is up for it. Men are supposed to want it all the time, from anyone…

And it’s tragic that few people have heard of it — You’d think a show headlining Orlando Bloom and Cara Delevingne, with a solid supporting cast of names you don’t know but faces you’d likely recognise of Joanne Whalley, Alice Krige, Andrew Gower, Indira Varma, Simon McBurney, Tamzin Merchant, and David Gyasi, would be better known. Released to only a small…